Tribute by his wife Smt Sharmil Pundir :
Life & Ties – Not dead until forgotten
(by Sharmila Pundir, Hindustan Times 1/6/2001)
Leaving footprints on the sand of time two lonely and never-ending years have passed in a haze of grief and bewilderment. Two years since a brave son of the Motherland laid down his life defending the borders of his country. As I look back over these two years I feel a curious mixture of emotions, a pain that time will never erase but also pride, because it requires a special type of courage to be able to fly into enemy space knowing you may never come back. I am the wife of such a special man, Sqr. Leader Rajiv Pundir. As the month of May approached there used to be a general atmosphere of happiness at home. The reason being very distinct. This was the month for us to relax after a year’s hard work. Rajiv took his annual leave around this time. But who knew that this very month for which we used to wait throughout the year would change our lives entirely. Each incident of that month two years ago is fresh in my mind. My husband had gone on temporary duty to Srinagar for 15 days. This was in April. His birthday fell on April 27, and he would generally forget all about it. But this time he did not, and we all wished him when he called us up from there. Rajiv and his crew were supposed to return on May 3, 1999. But as usual due to some reason they got delayed and landed on May 4. I, like any other wife, sighed with relief, and hoped for an interregnum of peace for a month or so. We started doing our packing and arranging things at home as we were to proceed on a long leave. On May 21 we all went out shopping for relatives back home. Rajiv had to go on duty again the next day for two or three days, as the Vice President of India was to visit Musooriee. He returned on May 24, and reached home at about four in the evening. We had a late lunch, and I told him how I had been packing while he had been away, so that he needn’t bother about it. As we were resting in the evening there was a siren for General Recall. Rajiv quickly changed into his uniform and left. It was night when he finally called me up, and – to my utter shock – asked me to pack his suitcase as he was supposed to leave for Srinagar immediately. I just could not understand what was so urgent. He came home at about 10.00 pm. We had a late dinner that night. He did not reveal anything about his mission, just saying that some load had to be dropped. He knew that were he to tell me the truth I would not have been able to take it. Just after an hour’s sleep he got ready to leave. Take off time was 5 am, May 25. Our daughter, who would be generally sleeping at this time, came out running to say bye to papa. Our last goodbye. On reaching Srinagar, he called us up to inquire about our welfare, and told me to proceed to Dehradun, our hometown. The idea was repugnant to me, as I had never gone without him anywhere, and I told him so. That was to be the last time we spoke. Like a bolt from the blue came the evening news bulletin, with its shattering announcement of the declaration of war. The blood froze in my veins: this is the news every service wife dreads. The night was spent in frozen fear, without a wink of sleep. On the morning of May 28 came the mechanical and cold announcement: an MI17 helicopter of the IAF had been shot down. The previous day, IAF had lost two MiG aircraft. And the very next day, as a part of new strategy, the IAF sent in four MI-17 helicopters in Kargil sector. One of the four was brought down by a Stinger missile fired by the intruders. According to eyewitnesses, even when the chopper was coming down the IAF personnel inside it continued to fire at the intruders. After few seconds the helicopter crashed – and also my happy world. The face of the newsreader still haunts me in my dreams. The next few hours passed as if an eternity: kind friends and neighbours kept trying to convince me that it couldn’t be my husband’s chopper that had been brought down. But this was soon proved wrong: my happy world collapsed like a house of cards around me, and I was trapped in a void of unimaginable grief.
May 29: Today was Homecoming day. The prodigal son who did not think twice while staking his life for his motherland, was coming home. A short halt on his onward journey from where no traveller returns. When the coffin draped in the Indian tricolour and decked with flowers came down there was more anguish in Bharat mata’s eyes than grief. This is how the brave sleep. The last rites were performed with full military honours. When the last post “O soldier, your work is done”, sounded I choked. I often relate Rajiv with the Almighty. Many a times I question myself as to who is god. Neither you nor I have seen him. We only believe that he is one who loves us, cares for us, who would listen to our prayers in whom we have faith and respect. My children and I have firm faith in him, we know he loves and cares for us, no matter where he is. Life goes on, but it has become very suffocating and seems to be devoid of colour or purpose. The wound is raw; it will take a long time to adjust to being alone. No one to laugh, cry or worry with. Sometimes I wonder at the strange ways of god, why he deals us such cruel blows. But then I realise no one can know what fate holds in store for each of us and how slender are the relationships that binds us. My memories of happy times continue to haunt me, the appearance of mango blossoms was a reminder that it was vacation time, time to go home on annual leave with the children, to my parents’ and in-laws’. Now, when I see the trees in full bloom it only serves as a poignant reminder of those days. Rajiv did his duty, he did not defer it. Now I have to do my duty towards my family and my country. My life now revolves around my children and bringing them up as he would have wanted to. I must never let them feel his absence and also work hard to bring them up with the right values and principles. For this I have to be both father and mother to my children and provide them with emotional and mental support. I also want to do something for those children who lost their father while defending the borders of this country. For this purpose I formed a small trust called the Kargil Foundation. As a humble beginning, the educational expenses of two children would be borne by this trust. I want to cherish the memory of my husband through the activities of this foundation. Last year the Government organised an exhibition to mark the first anniversary of the Kargil war. A small sentence written on a board on that occasion made a big impact on me: “A man is not dead until he is forgotten.”
ANKITA KIRTI
2023 at 11:48 amAll the brave martyr soldiers will live long in our hearts. Mine and my family’s salute to the Soldiers who sacrificed their lives for our peace. Rest in peace all the soldiers. We cannot even imagine the strength and the pain their families have to have to overcome this loss. Prayers with them and may they get all they desire for.
Manika Dixit
2023 at 12:04 pmBeing from a defence family has many proud privileges as well as challenges. I wish to let you know today and remember that your nation is forever grateful to you for your service.
Fortunately & proudly being from a defence family, i could relate to all the stress and struggles that your family feel because of deployment, moving, reuniting after long periods apart or even the loss of dear ones. But what is most courageous of you is to devote yourself for the service of this nation even knowing the hardships, struggles, and what not to come on your way.
We thank you for all your service, sacrifices, love and affection for the nation. Yours is no less than the contribution made by our soldiers, or even more.
Jai Hind!!
With Love,
Your Extended Family, a Proud Indian!
Sandip Sarkar
2023 at 12:05 pmMam, you have spoken about the Kargil Foundation trust, would be honoured to be part of the trust as my homage to Shaheed Squadron Leader Rajiv Pundir sir. How to reach out to contribute to the trust?
Atit Bhargava
2023 at 12:06 pmA very dear friend from childhood. I salute you. Shocking and sad. May God bless him and look after his family.
Aayush Kumar
2023 at 12:06 pmभावभीनी श्रद्धान्जली,शत शत नमन!!!
Honourpoint
2023 at 12:08 pmJai Hind
Nikhil Jain
2023 at 9:08 amI went to school with Rajiv. We were both in St Joseph’s Academy. I have found memories of this wonderful man.
Maj MS Jamwal Retd
2025 at 11:16 pmRajiv Pundir was a very Dear Friend & course mate at NDA Pune.He Sung us Beautiful Songs & played hockey with me in Bravo Sqn NDA.
Once in Jodhpur happened to walk outside his home.
He wasn’t Home.
Learned Later of him A Martyr .
Learned From the link:-
Sqn Ldr Rajiv Pundir is survived by his wife Smt Sharmila Pundir, daughter Bhavya and son Karan.
Smt Sharmila Pundir,
MS Bhavya,
Or
Karan
If any you happen to read my post kindly get in touch with me on 9636214303.
Shall be a Privilege Talking to My friends Folks &: )ay My Respect.
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Major Magdeshwar Singh Jamwal Retd.
Bravo Sqn
62 nd Course
NDA Pune
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